Monday, 13 April 2015

Weekend shenanigans

Ever have one of those weekends when you wake up on Monday morning questioning whether or not any of it actually happened? 

Saturday started quietly enough, a lie in, some netflix then a trip to gym to jump in the jacuzzi.  I went for lunch, and then got ready for a night in a castle.

Yes, a castle!!

With land around it, and deer roaming free.

And sheep.

And more deer.

I was picked up, outfit in bag, by two goddesses fully dressed in glitter, sequins, corsets and fancy tights!

We made our way to the castle to find a gaggle of girls already there and ready to party.

We got dressed in our finest and proceeded to the dining room (table sat 20 +) and then had a few nibbles and some champagne.

Then it was time for a burlesque lesson. 

We learned how to shimmy and shake, how to bump and grind.  We learned how to make an entrance into the room, and how to look suitably coy if people are watching us!

We learned the ancient art of nipple tassle twisting.

We learned striptease.

We laughed a lot.

We sang.

We lost all our inhibitions.

We put on a performance for each other with our new found skills.

We praised the other girls in the group for their performances.

We celebrated our inner goddess and our femininity and we revelled in who we are as women.

And we agreed to go to London and be in an amatuer show in Soho.

Then we drank more, feasted on venison from the estate and more excellent food.

Then we sat around singing, dancing, chatting and growing as women.

The party quieted down around 3 or 4 am, but the hardcore stayed up til even later.

I got home around 6pm, thoroughly exhausted and amazed at what I had learnt about myself. 

If you ever, ever get the chance to learn burlesque DO IT!!

Friday, 3 April 2015

I'm feeling sentimental today

Ever have one of those days when you start thinking about the past, and wondering if you made the right choices?

I'm a firm believer in the choices (good and bad) that you make in your life turn you into the person you are today.  That without those bad choices and decisions the person reading this blog (and the person writing it) wouldn't be the person they are.

So what if when I was 16 I had a kid?

So what if I trained as a teacher, but now work as a secretary?

So what if I invited a girl to stay with me for a month when I had never ever met her IRL?

We need to make choices then cope with those choices.

We can't make the decisions then go crying back to mummy saying that wasn't what I wanted. 

All decisions have consequences, some of them good, some of them bad.  But there are always consequences to our actions.  As adults we have to deal with those consequences.  So we should learn to deal with them early on.

Parents stop making things so easy for your kids...its ok if they mess up and get a bit embarrassed.  Its ok if they fail a test.  Thats how we learn.  Let then say sorry.  Let them go back to the shop and bring back that chocolate bar that "fell into their pocket".  I feel if we learned earlier on in life that its ok if everything doesn't go our way we will be much better adults.

I look back over my life cursing some of the decisions I made.  But I know that without them, I wouldn't be me.